Thursday, July 31, 2025

Thursday Church Day

 Today our temperatures were in the 70's (after a 20 degree drop last night) and I spent the best weather day of the summer, so far, in the charity office. 


We basically sit in a closet with a small window air conditioner so that we can't open a window. And when I opened the door, it was like opening an oven with the hot air from the whole month of July rushing at me. 


We are having a funeral at my church tomorrow and I am on the meal team.  The first thing I did when I got home was to make an Italian Pasta Salad. 

My first case was a woman whose husband works in a factory while she cares for their autistic elementary aged son. Her husband makes a few hundred dollars a month under their bills and she was exhausted trying to play catch-up month after month. 

I am good at commiserating with people and after we talked for awhile, we came up with a plan.  I believe we can help her complete her renegotiated mortgage payment for July. I reminded her tomorrow is August. I gave her a list of charities and foundations and social service agencies to contact to try to get her August payment so she could use his check to catch up other bills. We talked about trying to keep current or even ahead.  Then we had a talk about a part-time job to be able to keep up every month. She suggested babysitting and I suggested she contact the county to see if she could be certified as a county babysitter.  She does not really have job skills or the skill to have a job (if you know what I mean). But she was very sweet and I think she could be a dependable babysitter.  I made careful notes of our plan, who to contact, phone numbers and suggestions for her to take with her and she seemed very excited to get busy on the plan.  I hope it all works out. 


The second project was baking a pan of brownies for the funeral. 

The next client was a man who is unable to read or write and is a little slow. He did have a good friend who came with him to help with his application and help him out. He is on SSI and used his taxes to purchase his mother's trailer, pay the back taxes and wants to move in. He needed the security deposit and first month rent for lot rent which will be affordable for him. 

Another church is willing to do one if we do the other. He has a court date for custody of his son who is currently with a family member. CPS has already inspected and approved the trailer and he has him registered in school.  I provided information about area food banks and blessing boxes as well as other places to assist him.  He will be fine as long as someone mentors him. And that might have to be his 11 yr old son.  
If you buy a house on my street, I will bake you a pie. The house across the street sold to a free spirit friend of my middle son and he has just moved in. I assured my neighbors his waist length blonde dreads are not scary, he actually works the early shift in the area foundry and is already working hard on the landscaping. 

The third client was an application and interview from another volunteer yesterday. A woman in her 30's who has been in our country for almost 15 years as a green card holder and has been trying for citizenship but just hasn't had the funds.  Her renewal was not processed before her card expired and she is unable to work until it is renewed.  



She need funds to pay for a lawyer so that she can work through this (hopefully) and also money for some fees to go along with it since her green card is now expired. All in all, she needs about $1500.  

I don't want to say too much information but she is of Scandinavian descent and has four children born in this country. She also has a husband whose behavior is concerning. The church we usually partner with has voted not to assist as they are concerned they could be audited at some point and be liable for something or other from the government.  Another tricky part is that the fees need paid on the internet and we don't bank on the internet. We found a church of our denomination in a neighboring county who is willing to assist with us (although we may have to involve more organizations) and is able to transfer funds on the internet.  So this will be our big dilemma at our board meeting and I hope we don't get too many more applications by Monday. 

Cherry.  He was already asleep by the time it came out of the oven.  My husband, who gets up way to early, says he leaves around 4/5 am as they are trying to work 8 hours before it gets unbearably hot in the foundry and he should be home by 2 tomorrow.  I will take it over then. 

I apologize for the color changes and font changes and all the other goofiness. I am just too tired to figure it out.  

20 comments:

  1. My first thought of a job for someone with no working skills...a greeter at Walmart.
    It is kind you are trying to help others, dear Miss Merry, and I am sure people appreciate you. The salad and pies in your photos look great. Don't worry about the colour or font changes, what is important is that people can read and understand what you are sharing...and I do. :)
    Thank you so much for sharing.

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    1. That is a good suggestion but she lives in the farthest corner of our rural county away from a Walmart and could not afford the transportation. My usual suggestion is late hours at a fast food place. They like to have people over 21 after 10 pm to close but she is pretty far away from any of those too. I will keep greeter in mind.

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    2. Thanks, hope my suggestion helps. The only thing I am concerned about late nights and closing up a place is the security. This is usually the time that someone will try to rob a place because they know there will be the most money at closing time after the day's sales. Perhaps a hostess at a restaurant who greets the diners who are coming in...and seats them?

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  2. The pie looks great!! I bet your neighbor will love it!

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  3. Wow! All of the food looks great. We’re in the funeral planning group at church too and both take food and serve it. It’s a very meaningful ministry for sure. Thank you for helping the others too. It must be a heart wrenching job.
    Blessings,
    Betsy

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  4. It's wonderful how you and your church attempt to help these people Miss Merry, at the same time I don't know how you not feel overwhelmed with these stories. That man who can't read or write, gosh how heartbreaking. Meanwhile, your Italian pasta and brownies looked so delicious 😋

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  5. That was a very nice update to read. I liked how you switched back and forth between your charity work and home duties. Your neighbor is a lucky guy. I could use some of that pie right about now. Happy August.

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  6. Wow - you were very busy yesterday. All good things, but it has to be hard to see these people with such hard issues.
    I always bring something to new neighbors, but haven't done a pie. Good idea!

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  7. Lucky neighbor! You've been a busy woman. I really appreciate the work you do in the church with those who need assistance. I know you can't help everyone but you do so much good and it's thoughtful, well-evaluated work as you make your decisions.

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  8. Wish you were my neighbor. You connect people to the thoughts I have of so many who struggle, mostly through no fault of their own. I know it's out there, but you put a "face" to it. The food looks really good.

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  9. The biggest issue with being so rural is transportation to get to a job. We have so many folks clamoring for good babysitters or daycare places as newer young folks move here. Also, there seems to be the same issues here with the examples that you wrote about.

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  10. PS...I want to be your neighbor. I like pie.

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  11. What beautiful work you are doing. Congratulations.

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  12. You know, Merry, I read this post and what I saw was a person doing great good...and I compare myself to you and know that I have a ways to go to catch up.

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  13. Wow what a busy time you have. I wish I wanted to bake like you do. I have been very lazy. That pasta salad looks so delicious. Pie looks so good!

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  14. I am always amazed to hear the work your church does to help people in need out...It truly is amazing...We have had incredibly wonderful nice cool weather with temps. in the 70's and low humidity!! I am loving it and even though we will be going up into the 80's in the beginning of the week, the humidity will be low with temps. in the low 60's at night so I can use my window fan instead of my air conditioner in the bedroom, giving it a rest...Enjoy your weekend!! Thanks for visiting again and for your kind comment!!
    Hugs,
    Deb
    Debbie-Dabble Blog

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  15. "I assured my neighbors his waist length blonde dreads are not scary...", of coarse this part made me laugh out loud, Right? *Winks* There are so many Stereotypes and Myths about those of us who have Dreadlocks that you have to find the Humor in it. *LOL* My Grandkids were always asked if their Gramma could tell everyone where to get the Good Kush. *Bwahahaha* And then nobody would believe them when they said I don't partake. And I can't tell you how many people have asked me if I Wash them!!!!!!!!!!!!! Anyway, I'm so glad you assist so many people in Crisis within your Community, some can be helped, and of coarse some can't. There's so many complex Issues out there which Families are Dealing with daily. And I think need will only get greater, and I know you feel the same about that.

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  16. Well, I must say that pie looks gorgeous. I love it!

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  17. You are such a good person. It must make you sad to see all the people who are struggling but on the other hand you are such a help to them. I've gone to several churches here when I first came down here but I don't know of any that help the community like your church. I think it's wonderful!
    I wish I could have pasta salad and cherry pie but I can't. They sure look delicious. You're so kind to welcome your new neighbor. Stay cool!

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Miss Merry